It's a Danger of Fighting in Front of Children

Dissenting opinions that cause quarrels are common in conjugal relationships. However, fighting in front of a child is not a wise choice, because it can pose a danger to his mental health. Screams, insults, insults, and acts of violence that are often Mother and Father show when fighting in front of the Little One can leave a strong impression in his memory. This bad memory often affects the mental development of the Little One later.

What is the Impact of Arguing in Front of Children?

Did Mother and Father know that you are role models for Little One? If Mother and Father often quarreled in front of Little One, he might imitate Mother and Father, or even no longer regard Mother and Father as a role model they are proud of. In addition, children depend on parents to get a sense of comfort and security. If you often see their parents fight, children can feel uncomfortable and scared. Fighting in front of a child can also cause a variety of other negative effects on the child, namely:

1. Make children stressed

A recent study revealed that parental quarrels witnessed by children can lead to increased production of stress hormones. Even babies can be affected. When sleeping, the baby can record loud noises and screams around him. Besides disturbing his sleep, these loud noises can also interfere with his development.

2. Make children anxious and at risk of depression

Seeing his parents fight often can make children more anxious, even depressed. This relates to the negative thoughts that develop in the mind of the child and his concern that this fight will lead to the divorce of his parents. Child's fear of separation from parents is very basic. When parents divorce, children will usually join one parent, and this can make them lose the figure of the mother or father.

3. Children are not close to siblings

If this fight leads to divorce, the child's relationship with his siblings can also be tenuous. Mother or Father may bring one of the children, and not both. Divorce finally separated them.

4. Children tend to be naughty

Conflict in parents can make children feel less cared for. Finally, the child will seek attention in his own way, for example by doing mischief at home or problems at school.

5. Difficult to socialize with other people

Children who often witness their parents quarrel tend to be difficult to establish relationships with others. He felt ashamed if his friends knew that his parents often fought, and eventually it became difficult to make friends.

Tips when Mother and Father Argue

Indeed there is no relationship without problems. Quarrels also sometimes can not be avoided. But to prevent negative effects on your child due to this quarrel, there are a few tips that Mother and Father can do, namely:

• If there is a problem, as much as possible to talk with a cool head and do not carry over emotions.
• If you want to fight, as much as possible avoid fighting in front of the child. Look for a quiet place, for example in a room or outside the home. Mother and Father can also find the right time, for example when your little school. If it's necessary, Mother and Father can leave it for a while at the home of his grandparents.
• If you accidentally fight in front of Little One, tell him that Mother and Father are only arguing. Give him the understanding that discussing problems is a natural thing for parents. If you accidentally put out words that are harsh or too loud, explain to your child that this method is wrong, and that Mother and Father deeply regret it.
• Explain and reassure your child that your Father and Mother's household will remain fine after this debate.

If Mother and Father fight more often, do not hesitate to consult with a psychologist who specializes in handling marriage counseling. Do not let the argument of Mother and Father getting bigger and can no longer be covered up, until finally exploding in front of the Little One, or even lead to the thing that is most feared by him, namely the divorce of Mother and Father.